Children and youth make mistakes. Some are small, others quite big… While mistakes and poor choices are part of growing up (many things just need to be learned through experience), it may be difficult for parents to approach these situations from a place of understanding and compassion instead of punishment.
For many parents, punishment may be the only tool they know to address children’s wrongdoing. It is what they experienced growing up and now what they use with their own children.
While we need to hold our children accountable for their choices, and provide an appropriate consequence if needed, punishments don’t restore a relationship that has been damaged or improve trust between adults and children.
On the other hand, restorative practices—taking responsibility, making amends, and seeking forgiveness—are a positive alternative to strict punishments and blame. In this article, you can learn how to use restoration and forgiveness when kids do something wrong. I hope you find it helpful!